Confidence is a Skill That Can Be Learned
Confidence does not come naturally for most of us. But that does not mean we can’t change…
Confidence is a skill that can be learned. As with anything, practice is essential to attain a level of competence. Practicing confidence on a daily basis will allow you to build incredible momentum, and soon you won’t even recognize the old you.
Here are 7 quick and easy confidence boosters that you can practice every day.
1. Power Pose
How we feel is very closely related to our physiology. We can change our emotions simply by changing our body language.
Try this. Stand up, look up to the sky, spread your arms out wide, and shake your fists while saying, “I am powerful beyond measure!”
Really, do this right now. I’ll wait.
Now tell me, how much better do you feel? I’m willing to bet that you just completely changed your emotional state. It is almost impossible to feel depressed while doing this “power pose.”
You see, depression is usually nothing more than a HABIT. You are never FORCED to feel depressed. You unconsciously choose to be depressed by the things you think about and the way you carry yourself.
You are not a victim of outside forces. You do, believe it or not, have the cure for depression and low self-esteem within you, and it is available right now, in this very instant. It’s up to you to use it.
Stop hanging your head. You are essentially reinforcing the pattern of depression and low self-esteem by maintaining poor body language. The old saying “fake it ’til you make it” is true. ACT confident and you will soon BECOME confident.
And now for confidence booster #2.
2. I Love Myself
The most important decision you can ever make is the decision to love yourself fully and unconditionally. Your dreams will only ever be within reach when you have the self-love and respect required to even make the attempt.
I get asked the question a lot, “how can I begin to love myself more?”
My answer is always simple. Affirm it over and over again until it becomes true.
“I love myself. I love myself. I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.”
This is your new mantra from now on. Repeat this over and over every single day, and I promise you that your self-esteem will begin to soar.
There is a real power in certain words. The words “I love myself” have a very positive energetic frequency to them. These are healing words. Repeat them often enough and your life will transform almost magically. I’ve seen it happen. Try it and see for yourself.
3. Small Wins
Confidence, like many things, is most easily cultivated through consistency.
If you practice something only once per week, you will not be nearly as good as the person who practices daily. Small daily improvements can compound to create extraordinary results in a very short amount of time.
Think of something you are really good at. I bet if I asked you to do that right now, you would feel pretty confident and capable, wouldn’t you? You see, we all have high levels of confidence in certain areas of our life. It’s almost always with things we are good at, things we are certain that we can do effectively over and over again. With enough repetition, you can become confident in any area.
The key is to slowly build your confidence by remaining consistent with your efforts. I love the concept of “small daily wins” to build confidence. If you do something every single day, eventually you are going to become very proficient, and when you are good at something, you tend to feel very confident too.
Many people with low self-esteem feel that they have no skills or talents. They could do wonders for their self-confidence if they just began to practice ONE thing over and over again until they were really good at it. Who knows, this one thing could turn into a career or at the very least, an exciting new hobby.
Want to write your first book? Begin writing 500 words per day (I write 3,000 per day, so this should not be difficult, no matter who you are). By the end of 1 year, you will have written 180,000 words! That’s approximately 600 pages! Do you think you will be a much more confident and capable writer after you have written 600 pages? Certainly.
Okay, maybe you don’t want to be a writer, but this same rule applies for anything you can think of. The key to getting good at anything (and simultaneously boosting your confidence) is to get into the HABIT of “winning” on a DAILY basis.
What is a “win”? Set a daily goal, write it down, complete it, then check it off the list. That’s a win! Build up a long streak of these wins and you will be amazed at how much this increases your confidence and self-esteem.
I highly recommend starting a journal to record your daily wins. To begin, just set ONE goal for yourself. The only requirement is that this goal must be something you complete EVERY SINGLE DAY. Write down this same goal in your journal every morning and put a nice fat check mark next to it when you have completed it. You’ll eventually have pages and pages full of these check marks. Just looking at them every day will have a dramatic positive impact on the way you feel about yourself. Trust me, it works. Begin today.
Here are some examples of small daily wins:
Drink 64 ounces of water.
Eat one salad.
Write 100 words.
Read for 30 minutes.
Exercise for 20 minutes.
Meditate for 10 minutes.
Write, listen to, or speak 10 positive affirmations.
Re-write and review both your short and long term goals.
Do one small act of kindness.
Tell someone you love them.
Write down 3 things you are grateful for.
Don’t try to do all these at once. They are all excellent examples, but you want to make sure that you are consistently winning each and every day. The way to guarantee your success is to start small and work your way up.
You can actually damage your self-esteem further if you try too many things at once and then fail. It is a far better idea to just choose one thing and master it. Then you can move on once you have made the first one an automatic habit.
Okay, I’ve given you some great suggestions so far, but I’ve got even more for you. Let’s move on to confidence booster #4.
4. Plan your perfect life.
This is meant to be a fun one. The goal here is to simply exercise your imagination and get you thinking about the possibilities for the future. This simple exercise will help you overcome the rut of negative thinking and get you thinking about brighter days, which will inevitably begin to pull you in that direction.
This is a very powerful exercise so I recommend that you do what I’m about to suggest RIGHT NOW.
Get out a piece of paper and start writing down absolutely everything you would like to be, do, or have in your life. What things do you want to own? What kind of house do you want to live in? What kind of car do you want to drive? What city or country do you want to live in? What kind of friends do you want to have? What kind of hobbies would you like to partake in? What is your dream job? How much free time do you want? What will you do with that free time? Travel? Where? Go to sporting events? Drive fast cars? Volunteer for a good cause? What if you had unlimited money? What would you do with it? Buy your mother a new house? Buy your friends a new car for their birthdays? Donate to charity? Build a school for underprivileged children? Relax and sip coconuts on a tropical island? It’s your life. What do you want it to look like? Paint the picture in your mind right now, and then begin writing it all out on paper, every single detail you can think of.
I’ve mentioned it many times before, but there is something magical about writing things down. I did this exact writing exercise about 5 years ago, and much of what I wrote down has already come true. I wrote down that I would like to live in a place somewhere tropical with a view of the ocean. Well, as I write this, I’m on a small tropical island in the Philippines, drinking coffee next to the beach, overlooking the ocean. I wrote down that I wanted a sweet, caring and compassionate woman to share my life with. Well, I found her. These are just a couple of the things I wrote down. When I did this writing exercise, I filled about 10 pages. As I look back on it, about half of what I wrote down is already true for me. I imagine the other half will come true very soon 🙂
Please begin this writing exercise today. It’s really fun, so it shouldn’t feel like a chore at all. Exercise your imagination. Even if you don’t believe that any of what you write down could possibly come true, do it anyway. Have fun with it. Don’t take this too seriously. Just dare to dream for a little while.
If you really want to enhance the power of this writing exercise, do it once every month at the very least. Re-write your goals and dreams often, because they will change with time. Each time you do this, your vision will become more and more clear. Soon you will be able to visualize your ideal future with perfect detail. When you are able to do this, your vision will begin to create an intense emotional charge within you. Your energy and motivation will skyrocket and you will find yourself being naturally pulled in the direction of your dreams.
I cannot recommend this enough. If you don’t feel like settling for a mediocre life, then you would be wise to start planning for the PERFECT life!
5. Subconscious Mind-Programming
Lack of confidence is directly linked to unconscious thought patterns. This is the reason it sometimes seems so difficult, if not impossible, to change things in your life. You have unconscious thought patterns that sabotage you every time you try to make a positive change. You need to override these negative thinking patterns in you want to succeed.
What do all the previously mentioned techniques have in common? They all effectively re-wire the brain at a subconscious level.
Let’s review really quick:
Power Pose – changing your body language gives a different signal to your brain. The signal says something like, “I am confident and capable.” Doing the power pose often enough reprograms the mind to accept confidence as a natural and automatic way of being.
I Love Myself – a simple affirmation that, when repeated often, programs the mind to have more loving thoughts aimed at self-acceptance rather than self-sabotage.
Small Wins – give the subconscious mind direct evidence that proves you are indeed confident and capable. Consistent progress re-wires the brain to think, “I achieve my goals easily” and this soon becomes a natural way of being.
Plan Your Perfect Life – this exercise gives the mind new thoughts to ponder. Any time new thoughts enter the mind, old patterns are broken and new ones are created. Every time you think of what you desire, you program your subconscious mind to desire it even more, and you eventually will have no choice but to make it a reality.
And now we arrive at #5, which is an even more advanced strategy for subconscious programming because it uses modern technology to speed up the process. What I’m referring to is Brainwave Entrainment Technology.
Brainwave entrainment technology uses very specific sound frequencies that are designed to alter your state of mind. They effectively bring down the barriers of the conscious mind so that the subconscious mind can be directly programmed.
With ordinary programming techniques, progress can be slow because the conscious mind is very resistant. When you say, “I am confident” your conscious mind might immediately reject that statement and say “No, I’m not” so the message never passes into the subconscious where it can create real change.
Brainwave entrainment technology easily overcomes this conscious resistance by lowering the brainwave frequencies and relaxing the mind. The mind is easily programmed when you are very relaxed (this is why it’s a very bad idea to fall asleep with the television on).
Fortunately, you can easily access this advanced technology and begin to re-wire your brain very quickly and with almost zero effort. I am living proof that this works. I spent years perfecting this method and recently used it to achieve some huge goals of mine. I am now living my dreams, largely thanks to this technology.
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Well, you’ve already learned about 5 extremely effective confidence boosting strategies. Let me give you 2 more to cap it off.
6. Green Juice
Green juice is part of my daily routine and I credit a lot of my success to this habit of mine. Green juice gives my body the nutrition it needs to keep me energized and extremely creative. If you are not physically healthy, many of the aforementioned strategies will be much less effective than they could otherwise be.
When your body has everything it needs, you feel good, really good in fact. I realized this many years ago after suffering from some severe health problems. I never knew what it was like to be healthy, so I never realized how dramatic of a difference eating certain foods could have on my mood and overall self-confidence. When I began to get healthy, everything changed for me.
Green juice is just one small part of my routine that I use to stay healthy. It gives me the extra nutrition I need that is very hard to get from food these days due to poor farming practices.
Health can be a complicated subject and there is a lot of controversy as to what is the best route to take. I don’t want to delve into all the details because we can boil everything down to a few simple rules:
1. Cut out as much sugar as possible. Try to drink only water from now on, and drink lots of it.
2. Eat more vegetables. Aim for one small salad with each meal or one large salad for lunch or dinner. Use homemade dressings made from things like olive oil, apple cider vinegar, herbs, and spices.
3. Exercise more. A 30 minute walk once per day is all you need to stay healthy.
4. Minimize stress by doing things like meditation, deep breathing, and ‘losing yourself’ in some type of hobby or passion of yours.
Just doing these 4 things will have a dramatic positive impact on your life.
Now, let’s move on the 7th and final strategy for boosting your confidence and simultaneously improving every other area of your life.
7. Acts of Kindness
From my experience, I can say that people with low self-confidence are often overly focused on themselves. They are constantly worrying about their own life and what they can do to “fix it.” This is a good thing in some ways, because it drives them to find solutions, but when you are always looking out for yourself, you miss one of the greatest joys of life…
Giving to others and seeing the joy that it brings them is one of the greatest feelings in the world. Even a smile or kind gesture can do wonders for both the other person and yourself.
Ironically, focusing on bringing joy to others is what bring the most joy to YOU!
In many ways, this is the most powerful strategy of them all, because this strategy makes you forget about all your “problems.” You may think your problem is having low self-confidence, but let me tell you, the real problem just may be that you THINK you have a problem!
You believe you have a problem, which is why you look for solutions to that problem. This is fine, but the funny thing is that you actually perpetuate the problem by believing that it’s real! If you believe you have a problem, then you do. As long as you believe you have a confidence problem, you will continue to look for evidence that supports your belief. This can be a vicious cycle that is hard to break free from. The easiest way to break free forever is to become ‘selfless’ and begin focusing on solving OTHER PEOPLE’S PROBLEMS instead of your own!
Wow, even as I’m writing this I am having a personal revelation. Could it be this simple? Could selfless contribution be the answer to ALL our problems? I think so. When you have a strong desire to help others, you begin the shed the layers of your ego. Your goals and desires begin to matter a lot less because you begin to see that none of it compares to the immense joy that comes from being of service to others and witnessing how much a difference you can actually make in the world.
I’m filled with an immense gratitude as I write this. I want to thank you for reading this far. You make everything I do worthwhile. I know if you’ve read this far, then your life has been enhanced in some way. This short journey we’ve traveled together this day is proof that two souls can connect in almost magical ways. We might not ‘know’ each other personally, but in some sense we have connected today and have been made better because of it.
May you be a light for the world, and may all your wishes be fulfilled.